http://discoveryguestblog.edublogs.org/2007/01/21/one-perspective-how-much-should-a-parent-protect-a-child/ The place where the greater Discovery community comes to discuss the big question students have. Tue, 23 Jan 2007 17:22:46 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 http://discoveryguestblog.edublogs.org/2007/01/21/one-perspective-how-much-should-a-parent-protect-a-child/comment-page-1/#comment-12 In Other News » Blog Archive » Should Parents let their kids make their own mistakes? Tue, 23 Jan 2007 17:22:46 +0000 http://discoveryguestblog.edublogs.org/2007/01/21/one-perspective-how-much-should-a-parent-protect-a-child/#comment-12 [...] On the guest blogs for this week, the question was posed to parents: How much should a parent “protect” their child. This got me to thinking about the 2 types of parents: Those who are super control freaks and hold onto their kids ridiculously tight, and the kind of parent that will let their children learn from their own mistakes and let them make them, rather then shielding them from it. For me, my parents are the first kind, and having to deal with that for 13 years, I would prefer the second. Now, I am NOT saying that parents should let their kinds do whatever they want (Though that would be nice), but they should let their kids have some leeway and learn from their faults. If you never fall, how will you know how to get up,right? It is ridiculous to think that you can shield your child from everything in the world that might cause them some harm, and yet, that is the way my family is. They are so overprotective and controlling, that it get boring after awhile and you just start to say ” you know what, screw this” and that creates rebellion and lost respect between parent and child. You end up not caring what they have to say. If you are not protecting your child, then you are not doing your job as a parent, but you end up driving your kids away if you are stubborn and won’t let them go after a certain point. and the thing with a certain set of parents that I have known for a very long time is that their policies and what they believe is right is so old and just doesn’t apply in today’s youth society, and yet they are not open to any other idea, never consider for an inkling of a moment that there is a possibility that they are wrong, that the kid might be right, considering that he is out there in modern culture,knowing what is going on NOW, not when they were kids, while they watch CNN 24/7. Honestly, after awhile, I don’t care how your teen years were, how you had to grow up, I am more concerned with what is going on now, and you should be to. How people look, dress, act, and everything else is not the same as 1976, and they need to understand that. They need to realize that the world has moved on, they need to catch up, and the crap they give about when they were kids DEOSN’T APPLY ANYMORE! I think it is great that you have all this lifelong experience, but some of it deosn’t hold up in the real world people! So, to answer the title question, I think they shold let their kids make their own mistakes, because your kids experience is going to be differnet then yours, so you can’t try to force these things on them, because it just won’t make sense. So, if you are one of those parents (or people )that I described, stop living in the past and try to catch up to a world that has apparently passed you right on by. [...] [...] On the guest blogs for this week, the question was posed to parents: How much should a parent “protect” their child. This got me to thinking about the 2 types of parents: Those who are super control freaks and hold onto their kids ridiculously tight, and the kind of parent that will let their children learn from their own mistakes and let them make them, rather then shielding them from it. For me, my parents are the first kind, and having to deal with that for 13 years, I would prefer the second. Now, I am NOT saying that parents should let their kinds do whatever they want (Though that would be nice), but they should let their kids have some leeway and learn from their faults. If you never fall, how will you know how to get up,right? It is ridiculous to think that you can shield your child from everything in the world that might cause them some harm, and yet, that is the way my family is. They are so overprotective and controlling, that it get boring after awhile and you just start to say ” you know what, screw this” and that creates rebellion and lost respect between parent and child. You end up not caring what they have to say. If you are not protecting your child, then you are not doing your job as a parent, but you end up driving your kids away if you are stubborn and won’t let them go after a certain point. and the thing with a certain set of parents that I have known for a very long time is that their policies and what they believe is right is so old and just doesn’t apply in today’s youth society, and yet they are not open to any other idea, never consider for an inkling of a moment that there is a possibility that they are wrong, that the kid might be right, considering that he is out there in modern culture,knowing what is going on NOW, not when they were kids, while they watch CNN 24/7. Honestly, after awhile, I don’t care how your teen years were, how you had to grow up, I am more concerned with what is going on now, and you should be to. How people look, dress, act, and everything else is not the same as 1976, and they need to understand that. They need to realize that the world has moved on, they need to catch up, and the crap they give about when they were kids DEOSN’T APPLY ANYMORE! I think it is great that you have all this lifelong experience, but some of it deosn’t hold up in the real world people! So, to answer the title question, I think they shold let their kids make their own mistakes, because your kids experience is going to be differnet then yours, so you can’t try to force these things on them, because it just won’t make sense. So, if you are one of those parents (or people )that I described, stop living in the past and try to catch up to a world that has apparently passed you right on by. [...]

]]> http://discoveryguestblog.edublogs.org/2007/01/21/one-perspective-how-much-should-a-parent-protect-a-child/comment-page-1/#comment-10 Blah » Parents and their children Tue, 23 Jan 2007 17:07:33 +0000 http://discoveryguestblog.edublogs.org/2007/01/21/one-perspective-how-much-should-a-parent-protect-a-child/#comment-10 [...] I just read this Discovery guest blog, and decided to write about it.  I like the fact that parents love their kids enough to try to protect them, but we still need some breathing space! Don’t get me wrong, i love spending time with my family and love them, but every once in awhile I like to do my own thing. My parents personally let me hang out with friends and go to the mall by myself and stuff, but I remember the days when they had to go to the mall with me, hold my hand when I crossed the street, and screen the movies before I watched. The question is, do they still protect me too much? Sometimes I think they protect me too much, but sometimes i appreciate it.  But really, when my mom still tries to take my hand when I cross the street, I blush and stick my hands in my pockets. It’s a sweet thought, but really, can i, as a 13 year old in MIDDLE SCHOOL, really be seen holding my mother’s hand? I think not! And I never want her to know that because I really do like her. When my parents said they didn’t want me to go on a ski trip because we were going in “unsafe” buses up in the mountains, I got really angry. now I kind of understand where they were going, but it still really annoys me when they try to go on trips with me…even if it’s just over the weekend! they always want to chaparone and stuff. I like it every now and then, but when they’re constantly peeking over my shoulder…well, it gets a little tense.  But I guess when i’m older and I have kids, I’ll understand where they got this over-protectivness from, why they wanted to spend every moment with me. I’m just wondering what my kids will think of me! [...] [...] I just read this Discovery guest blog, and decided to write about it.  I like the fact that parents love their kids enough to try to protect them, but we still need some breathing space! Don’t get me wrong, i love spending time with my family and love them, but every once in awhile I like to do my own thing. My parents personally let me hang out with friends and go to the mall by myself and stuff, but I remember the days when they had to go to the mall with me, hold my hand when I crossed the street, and screen the movies before I watched. The question is, do they still protect me too much? Sometimes I think they protect me too much, but sometimes i appreciate it.  But really, when my mom still tries to take my hand when I cross the street, I blush and stick my hands in my pockets. It’s a sweet thought, but really, can i, as a 13 year old in MIDDLE SCHOOL, really be seen holding my mother’s hand? I think not! And I never want her to know that because I really do like her. When my parents said they didn’t want me to go on a ski trip because we were going in “unsafe” buses up in the mountains, I got really angry. now I kind of understand where they were going, but it still really annoys me when they try to go on trips with me…even if it’s just over the weekend! they always want to chaparone and stuff. I like it every now and then, but when they’re constantly peeking over my shoulder…well, it gets a little tense.  But I guess when i’m older and I have kids, I’ll understand where they got this over-protectivness from, why they wanted to spend every moment with me. I’m just wondering what my kids will think of me! [...]

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